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Friday Fun! (My Bday and the 4th)
Hello my lovely readers! So this weekend is not only one of my all-time favorite holiday weekends–the 4th of July aka AMERICA FUCK YEAH–it is also my birthday. Tomorrow to be exact. I’m turning 25. People have asked if I’m having a quarter-life crisis. I…..don’t think so? I mean, I reflect on my life on every birthday, and it’s always a mixed bag. There are things I’m happy with and proud of and things I wish were different, but then I come to terms with it. At first I was upset that I’m turning 25 and am single, but now I’m cool with it. Honestly, it’s fun to be single in a city. Relationships are fun, but so is being single, y’know? And thankfully I live in a time period where I wasn’t deemed an old maid the instant I turned 20, haha. ;-)
This weekend will be full of fun as per usual. I’m planning a bike ride, picnic, some drinks, the gym, and of course FIREWORKS. I’ve still gotta figure out my red white and blue outfit for Monday…….
Happy weekends all!
Book Review: The Birth House by Ami McKay
Summary:
Dora Rare is rare indeed. She is the first female born to the Rare family Scots Bay, Canada in generations. Her dark hair and brownish skin reflecting the family’s Micmac heritage make her stick out like a sore thumb in the area. However, Scots Bay’s midwife, Miss B., has always taken a shining to Dorrie, and she trains her in the ways of midwifery. The early 1900s are a tough time for midwives and women, though. Soon the area is threatened by World War I and male obstetricians, not to mention all the obstacles rural women have always had to face from violent, drunk husbands to too many children.
Review:
This book was quite honestly painful to read, for it lays out so clearly what it is that makes being a woman difficult in society. Although some things in modern day have improved, for instance we western women have the right to birth control, in other ways things have remained painfully the same. There are still areas of the world where men have more control over women’s bodies than they do. It is often still expected for women to be pure when men are not. Women often feel that they must put up with the wrongdoings of their husband simply to keep the home and family life that they so desperately desire, and on and on.
The book itself is told as a mix of third person narrative and Dora’s journal with clippings from the various newspapers. This style suits the story well, as we are allowed to see Dora from both outside and inside her own head. The characters are fairly well-rounded, although the motivations of those who are not Dora are not always the clearest or the most sympathetic, but as most things are from her perspective, that is understandable.
Of particular interest to me, especially with my knowledge of psychology, was the portions of the book dealing with how women are often accused of being insane simply for reacting to the injustices foisted upon them. I discussed this topic at length in multiple women’s studies and feminism classes. The idea that the just rage of the trodden upon is often depicted by the rulers as insanity. This is beautifully depicted in this book for Dora, struggling against many injustices and feeling rightfully irritated and angry, is informed by a male doctor that she is suffering from hysteria–a peculiarly female ailment resulting from female organs. Her anger and fighting back is thus tagged with a name that let’s others dismiss it as an illness, rather than a just reaction. McKay eloquently depicts this entire issue without being too heavy-handed.
I was also surprised and delighted to see a portion of the story take place in Boston during the women’s suffrage movement in the United States. I’m assuming McKay must have visited my city, for she perfectly describes the North End from the buildings to the atmosphere of walking those streets. This accuracy allowed me to travel back in time to a period of injustices in my own city, not to mention the molasses flood. It was indeed a delight to read of Boston from a women’s rights perspective for once instead of always reading of the Irish mafia.
The main point of the book comes across throughout it in a gentle way. The idea that we must continue to struggle and give but not give up or the oppressors will win.
Never let someone take what’s rightfully yours. You can give all you want in life, but don’t give up. (page 337)
It is simultaneously encouraging, uplifting, and depressing to realize that women throughout time have struggled with similar issues. Yet things are gradually improving, and thus we must not give up for the sake of future generations of women.
This book beautifully depicts the history of women’s rights in the early 1900s. It is a painfully beautiful read that I recommend all women, as well as men sympathetic to the cause, read.
4 out of 5 stars
Source: PaperBackSwap
Friday Fun! (Stanley Cup FTW!)
Hello my lovely readers! Ok, so I know most of you aren’t from Boston and thus don’t really care, but OMG THE BRUINS WON!!!!!
Here’s the thing. I fucking love hockey. Love it. It’s my absolute favorite sport. Perhaps because this is I grew up practically on the Canadian border (our signs were in French and English). I suspect, however, that it’s more because hockey is one of the few sports that is still not a pussy sport. The players routinely get into fights with each other on the ice, and they don’t even get put in the penalty box for it. Most of the time. Plus they do this physically difficult sport on ice. We all know everything’s harder on ice. (Ok, ok, not everything *wink wink, nudge nudge*)
Anyway, so this past week was the championship between the Boston Bruins and the Vancouver Canucks. If you don’t know, there are 7 games played, and the winning team is the best of 7. My past week thus largely consisted of watching hockey. Last Friday I went out to a local dive bar (that has free popcorn) to do so with one of my friends. Alas, we lost that game. Monday night I watched at home after a tough gym session and kept my dad, who works second shift, posted on the score via text message. Our win Monday meant we were tied at 3/3, which meant a game 7! Ahhhhhh!!! Now the Bruins hadn’t won since 1972. Clearly such an event demanded a night out.
I ended up going out to a local very packed bar with friends. Watching the game in a bar full of fellow fans was one of the most awesome experiences I’ve had in a while. We drank. We yelled. We celebrated. There was music. Strangers were randomly high-fiving and hugging each other. It was the loudest I’ve ever been outside of a concert. In fact, my voice is a bit off today. And the best part is we won!! We won the Stanley Cup!!! Take that, Canada. Hockey ain’t just your sport. :-P
Now, if I can just actually manage to make it to a game at the Garden next season…….
Friday Fun! (Better World Books)
Hello my lovely readers! I hope your weeks have all been awesome. My week was fairly busy as per usual. I baked cookies, made pizza, had a movie marathon with a friend, and was finally forced to put my ac in thanks to the recent surge in temperature in Boston. My cat is shedding up a storm. She’s been loving up the extended brushing sessions she’s now getting. She’s also been showing an intense love for water and getting wet (by repeatedly trying to climb in the shower with me). She’s an odd duck, and I’m considering giving her a bath to help with the heat/shedding issue. I’ll let you know if I wind up torn to shreds.
I’m finally finishing up my spring cleaning I started during vacation. After bringing my weeded books to a local indie then posting to PaperBackSwap, I still had a few left-over. I was pleased to discover an awesome charity that pays for the shipping so you can donate books at no cost to you–Better World Books. Basically it’s an online bookstore that uses all their proceeds to benefit worldwide literacy and libraries. It helps them immensely when their stock is donated. I know most of my followers are big readers, so I highly encourage you to check them out if you’re weeding or adding to your shelves. Both activities help out with literacy, and that just makes for a better world all-around. (Hence the name of the bookstore, I imagine).
My weekend is going to consist of going to see Bridesmaids with a friend, some necessary clothes shopping, and a Team Unicorn gathering. Happy weekends all!
Friday Fun! (NAMI Walk and Best Friend)
Hello my lovely readers! Sorry we were a bit short on reviews this week. I just finished up a chunkster (758 pages) that will be reviewed on Monday. It slowed me down a wee bit!
Last weekend I participated in the NAMI walk with my hospital. Thanks to generous contributions from friends and twitter followers, I raised $100 for the National Alliance on Mental Illness. Yet I felt of more value than the money raised by all the participants was the walk itself. Mental illness is still so stigmatized and here were people living with mental illnesses, people who routinely treat it, people who love people with it, gathered together and being loud and proud in the middle of Boston. My absolutely favorite team tshirt I saw was “Stamp Out Stigma” followed by “Stigma Stings.” People are people, and it is hard enough for those with a mental illness to live with it and attempt recovery without facing stigma from society. I am so glad out of all the walks in Boston I chose to participate in this one. It was very moving.
Also this week, I had to say goodbye to my best friend who’s moving from Boston back home to Colorado. I fully support her decision and know it’s the right one for her, but I will miss her dearly. We are still working together on a secret project from a distance though. The internet is amazing like that. Also, I hope to be able to save up to visit her sometime next winter. It’s still sad though. Nothing is the same as getting to see your best friend every week, you know?
So it’s been a bit of a rollercoaster emotional week for me, but I at least have a three day weekend this weekend for Memorial Day. Happy weekends!
Friday Fun! (Provincetown)
Hello my lovely readers! Last weekend, two of my friends and I decided to take a one night vacation to Cape Cod–Provincetown to be exact. For those of you who don’t know, Ptown, as it’s more commonly known, is not only the first landing place of the Pilgrims before they moved on to Plymouth, but also is the gay mecca of the Eastern seaboard. Coastal town plus fabulousness everywhere? What more could we ask for?
My lovely weekend included wading in the Atlantic, a run along the beach, flipping off a lighthouse, hilarious window shopping, hot tubbing, some whiskey, and possibly the best knock-off of a chain restaurant ever–the Burger Queen, which included Larry the most fabulous gay man I’ve ever met. We became their first customers to get our picture taken for their book. Every time I go to the ocean, I know I’m going to end up living on it eventually in my life. It was exactly the vacation the doctor ordered. Thanks, ladies, for the epic weekend!
This one won’t be quite so epic, but it will involve a charity walk, meeting GameCouch, and a party for a Team Unicorn member. What are you all up to with your weekends?
Friday Fun! (Quirky Wolfy)
I’ve always had this problem that I just don’t quite fit in anywhere. I’m what they call an odd duck. If I was a house, you’d say I was decorated in an eclectic fashion. I’m kind of a big bunch of contradictions. I’m a huge reader, so people think I’m a nerd, but then they find out that I scoff at D+D and WoW. Suddenly, the nerds don’t know what to do with me.
I love going out to sporting events and cheering on the home team, but I don’t wear makeup. Suddenly, the jocks are wondering how on earth I got into a sorority. Um, I didn’t.
I recycle and garden passionately, but I shave my legs. The hippies become very confused.
I am highly educated, but I’m more comfortable drinking at a bonfire and roasting veggie dogs over the open flames than I would ever EVER be in a fancy restaurant.
All of this has led me to make a pretty eclectic bunch of friends, and I love it, and I love them for it. It really has enhanced my social circle to the umpteenth degree. I have my hippie friends and my artistic friends and my nerd friends and my girly girl friends, etc…. I love them all for their own reasons, and I can pretty much always find someone to do any of my various pursuits with. The problem, of course, comes when I’m trying to date.
I am weird. Guys never know quite what to expect, and just when they think they have me figured out, I do something that to them is out of left field, but to me is totally perfectly normal. I can go from discussing Kant to swearing like a sailor in five seconds flat. I seriously get why it’s confusing. The problem is that that’s just who I am, and I ain’t gonna change it to suit nobody. I can’t pretend to be a classy lady when I’m not most of the time. I can’t pretend I’m comfortable just sitting around drinking beer and watching the game every weekend, when sometimes I want to go to the museum. I love who I am and how I am and the fact that it makes my life so varied and unpredictable. The problem is that’s a lot of quirks to match someone up to. Or at least to find someone who thinks they’re all cute. I’m sure that quirky guy is out there somewhere. I mean, after all, my father and uncles are all similarly quirky, and we can’t be the only family like that on the planet. (please oh please oh please universe)
But, you know, waiting for him kind of sucks. Even if I do get to pump iron at the gym, go out for beers to watch the Bruins, read on a riverbank on my kindle, and then hit up the MFA all in one weekend in the meantime.
Randomness: Ebay aka Help a Poor Lady Out
You guys, so I totally am selling stuff I don’t need anymore on ebay to help myself out in this slightly tight financial time while I’m hunting for an MLIS job. So. If you want to get any movies/music/videogames/periodically other stuff from a trustworthy source, please do check it out!
You benefit. I benefit. It’s all good karma.
Grazi!
Friday Fun! (Staycation Report)
Hello my lovely readers! I hope you didn’t miss me *too* terribly much while I was on vacation. ;-) I must say, a vacation was exactly what I needed. I had a lot of time to think without the stress of work or job hunting or school or any of that hanging over my head, and I feel like my head is screwed on much more straight now, I must admit. I’m re-focused and have new energy.
So what all did I get up to? Well, I went out for Asian fusion with one of my friends. The mix of sushi, seaweed salad, and kushiyaki was awesome, but of course the highlight of the meal was the White Crane sake. Nom. That is all I have to say about that. I also hit up a local pub that has a huge, huuuuge beer selection. My friend calls it “the cheesecake factory of beer.” Damn straight. It just so happened that the final game of Bruins vs. Montreal was on, so we got to take that in with the crowd as well. It was quite the memorable night.
I also met up with a member of Team Unicorn for lunch. I so rarely get to see any of them outside of our periodic gatherings. I also spent an afternoon reading by the Charles (and getting sunburned), as well as taking in the sights at the MFA. I wanted to see the Chihuly exhibit, but I never did find it. In fact, I had trouble getting out of the Asian and Ancient Europe section. Ah well.
A friend and I hung out and made this incredible recipe of doom. It was amazing. And there was strawberry jam all over my floor the next morning.
As you can see from my post earlier this week, I also took in the Boston Ballet for the first time since I was very young. I had a fun time, but I must say it was not what I was expecting. I also finally tried Zaftig’s restaurant for the first time after hearing it highly praised among Team Unicorn for a very long time. I had an in-house made black bean burger, and I admit, it was the best one I’ve had in the Boston area.
I spent a day riding my bike around the city, partaking in a session with my trainer, and lounging around Harvard Square and on the river. After that, I got the urge to spring clean. I sorted, organized, recycled, and bagged up four trash bags of items to donate this week. I also started scrubbing down the walls, but still have a few left to do. My whole apartment feels so much lighter, fresher, and more homey now. I’m so glad I took the time to spring clean.
That was pretty much my staycation, and I think I did a fairly good job keeping it well-rounded. I’ve returned refreshed, and I must say that I fully intend to not let so much time go on before I take another one again. Happy weekends!

